Consequences Of Defiling The Marriage Bed By Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Consequences Of Defiling The Marriage Bed By Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Dear Reader,

I welcome you to this glorious edition of this month’s teachings. This month, I shall be sharing on one of the loopholes found in marriages, today. It is why many homes are under the heavy load of self-inflicted burden and the reason for the lack of peace and love in many marriages.

Marital infidelity has been the major problem in most marriages in this present dispensation.

This week, I shall be teaching on: Understanding The Marriage Bed. This foundation will help you to better understand and know the importance of the marriage bed. When a man and a woman are joined together in marriage, they enter into a formal agreement, which is legally binding.

In the presence of their friends and relatives, they pronounced their vows and commitment to stay together for life (Matthew 19:5-6). This can be accomplished by a feast in the family of the bride. Jesus was a part of such a feast as recorded in John 2:1-2: On the third day a wedding took place at Cana in Galilee. Jesus’ mother was there, and Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding.

Marital relationship is a covenant relationship. Marriage is the only covenant in the Bible that allows two people to be perfectly joined in all areas of life, from the physical to the spiritual. This legal contract has a seal. The seal lies in the consummation of the marriage – sexual intercourse. The ‘altar’ upon which this covenant is cut is termed ‘marriage bed’. It is not just the physical bed upon which you first slept on your wedding night or a piece of furniture in your bedroom that is important to God, but sacredness of the union that exists between you and your spouse.

Sex is sacred to God because God is a God of covenants. For every covenant God makes, He gives a sign. There is the rainbow as a seal of the covenant that God will not destroy the earth with water again (Genesis 9:12-13). For marriage, there is a blood covenant between the two individual that are involved.

On the wedding night, as the marriage is consummated, God expects to see the hymen break and blood flow, thus sealing the covenant of marriage between husband and wife. Virginity, therefore, must be taken seriously. No human custom or modern day ideology can change that. Here is one of the Old Testament commandments as it concerns virginity: But if…the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel: then they shall bring out the damsel… stone her with stones that she die… (Deuteronomy 22:20, 21). This implies that you must keep yourself pure as a young man or woman that desires to have a fulfilled marriage.

Therefore, any sexual relationship engaged in, outside the covenant of marriage, defiles and is called sin. It must be repented of and forsaken.

Perhaps you have defiled your bed at a point in time, there is a place of mercy that allows for repentance. First, you need to acknowledge your sins and be ready to forsake them. Give your life to Jesus Christ and you shall be saved. Do you want to be born again? If you are ready, please say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today, I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today.
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Consequences of defiling the marriage bed (ii)

Dear reader, 

You are welcome to this week’s edition of Family Forum. I strongly believe that God who has started a good thing in you, will surely perfect all that concerns your marriage and family.

This week, I shall be considering: Causes Of Bed Defilement. Last week, I shed light on what marriage bed is all about. It is not your piece of furniture called ‘Bed’ in your bedroom, but the sexual union that is between you and your spouse. It is a sacred thing and a covenant that you cut on your wedding night. This is what makes you and your spouse one.

The Bible says: Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled (Hebrews 13:4 emphasis mine). Marriage was designed to deposit unique honour on man. Yet from Hebrews 13:4, we see that God attaches a condition for honour; the bed must be undefiled. Sexual immorality is what defiles marriage bed. Whether you are married or not, engaging in sexual relationship is deeper than what meets the eyes.

It is only within the context of marriage that guilt does not accompany sex. Defiling the marriage bed, as a single person, is the quickest route to experiencing shame in marriage whether you are marrying the person involved or not. As a single person, do not think that you are not defiling any bed, since you are not married. This might be a deception of the devil.

The Bible make it very clear: Flee fornication, every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that commiteth fornication sinneth against his own body…your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost… ye are not your own. (I Corinthians 6:18,19). You are not your own, you belong to God, Who will in turn give you to a man that you deserve. Until wedding vows are exchanged and the marriage ceremony solemnised, no man and woman are scripturally permitted to engage in sexual intercourse.

On the part of those that are married, adultery is a very serious sin that God frowns at. The Bible defines it as lying with another man’s wife (Leviticus.20:10). As long as either the man or the woman is married and has sexual intercourse with one other than his or her spouse, he or she has committed adultery. God will judge all who do this.

Extra-marital affairs do not just happen; there are factors that could trigger this evil in anyone that is not sensitive to the devices of the devil. The number one factor is covetousness. The Cambridge Advance Learners Dictionary defines covetous as: desiring something too much, especially something that belongs to someone else. Covetousness is one of the things that God specifically told Moses to warn the children of Israel against (Exodus 20:17).

This sin could lead to many other terrible things, including sexual sin. It is covetousness that makes you think that a lady outside is more beautiful and better than your wife. Also, a covetous woman will always prefer another man to her husband, thinking the man is richer or more handsome. A single lady that is covetous will sell her body to get money, because she is not satisfied with the little that she has.

Another factor that could lead to sexual sin is wrong association. Who are your friends? The type of friends you keep will determine your life pattern. A lot, today, both married and single persons were introduced to this pervert way of life, due to bad friends. The Word of God says: Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character (1 Corinthians 15:33 NIV).

No matter how good you may think you are, if your circle of friends is those that have no respect for ‘marriage bed’, you will be surprised that you will soon lose your marital dignity.

No one can overcome this nature, except by the power that is in the Blood of Jesus Christ. Give your life to Him and you shall be saved. If you are ready please say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today, I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today.
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Consequences Of Defiling The Marriage Bed (iii)

Dear reader,

Welcome to the concluding part of this month’s series. I strongly believe that you have been blessed and edified. Today, I shall be looking into Ways Out Of Marital Infidelity.

We live in modern times, where a lot of virtues our parents upheld are pushed aside as being old-fashioned. Liberality appears to be the password of the new generation. Thank God, the Bible was not inspired by man’s customs and ideologies, else, several updates would have become mandatory. What is contained therein was inspired by the Holy Spirit, Who is eternal. The Word of God in 2 Timothy 3:16 says: All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.

Renew Your Mind: For anyone to be free from today’s pollution, renewal of the mind is inevitable. The Bible says: And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God (Romans 12:2). God’s Word cannot become obsolete; His Word cannot become old-fashioned. The potency of God’s Word is as ever. It is the best ‘water’ that can wash away every contamination.

If you discover that you have a weakness towards the opposite sex, do not fold your hands, fight spiritually and overcome the devil. Lay hold on the Word of God, read, study and meditate on it. Get materials like books, tapes, etc. These will help your mind from wandering about. Be careful not to watch or read materials that can prompt you into your old ways.

Be Open: Keeping secrets could be dangerous, especially with the opposite sex. Sending text messages that you would not want your spouse to know about, is like sitting on a gun powder. Any relationship that your spouse is not comfortable about should be dropped. If you are a single person, be careful not to stay alone in secluded places with the opposite sex.

The Bible says: …for we are not ignorant of his devices (2 Corinthians 2:11). I receive mails on a daily basis of wives suspecting their husbands and men not trusting their wives, because of secret calls and text messages. The truth is: there is nothing secret that shall not be made manifest; neither anything hid, that shall not be known and come abroad (Luke 8:17).

Marriage is founded upon a very delicate material called trust. One cannot afford to get caught in the web of adultery. When trust is broken, suspicion sets in and eventually the marriage breaks. By committing adultery, you literally take the honour God bestows upon you and cast it before swine: Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you. (Matthew 7:6).

When your honour is trampled upon, nothing remains of it. Another dimension to this is that the respect or value which your spouse has for or placed upon you is shattered. There are many out there, who are ready to play on your emotions and get at you; do not give them room.

No one can overcome this nature except by the power that is in the Blood of Jesus Christ. Are you ready to be saved? If you are ready, please say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today, I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. 

Congratulations!  You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail: faithdavid@yahoo.com; Tel.  No: 234-1-7747546-8; 07026385437; 07094254102 

For more insight, these books authored by Pastor Faith Oyedepo are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work and Building a Successful Family.

Pastor Faith Oyedepo